Comments on Julie Pippert: Using My Words: A Friendly Word

i think my response requires an entire post

2009-04-13T08:42:00.000-05:00

i think my response requires an entire post

It is so true - when we use the energy to vindicat...

2009-04-11T16:01:00.000-05:00

It is so true - when we use the energy to vindicate in our minds, we are defining ourselves by that one problem. When we seek to move past, find reason and, if finding none, forgiveness allows us to be outside Denmark, so to speak!!

Julie. Julie. Julie.Did I ever need a sermon this ...

2009-04-10T10:43:00.000-05:00

Julie. Julie. Julie.

Did I ever need a sermon this morning! I have been in such a funk this week. Communicate. Step back. Think. Find a way. *sigh*

Yes, exactly.

Also, my twelve year old rolls her eyes and heaves big sighs and pops the ipod ear buds in her ears so quickly I think she'll burst her ear drums anytime I begin a conversation with: "Is this really about them or is this about you?" or "Let's look at the situation from their perspective," or "Was there another solution than to blow up at (insert name or group of people or friends' cell phones)"

How do you get her to sit on your lap and listen?

Oh, I feel this one deeply. I have spent much of m...

2009-04-08T23:06:00.000-05:00

Oh, I feel this one deeply. I have spent much of my life being hurt and holding grudges over someone else's failure to be whom I needed or wanted them to be. I have spent years making plans in my head and been outraged when others have failed to help me execute them. It's been tough work, as an adult, to unlearn all of that. I wish I had had an intuitive momma who could pull me on her lap and help me get it at six.

Just went through this a bit last evening when my ...

2009-04-08T09:25:00.000-05:00

Just went through this a bit last evening when my six year old wanted to tag along behind the older boys as they rode bikes but she got left behind.

I wouldn't go back and live those years other again for all the money in the world.

Very powerful post- I'm still saying hmmm.

2009-04-08T01:17:00.000-05:00

Very powerful post- I'm still saying hmmm.

I love the label for this post (Growing Up Is Hard...

2009-04-07T21:39:00.000-05:00

I love the label for this post (Growing Up Is Hard to Do). You are doing an amazing job helping your girls grow up--and reminding us all to play nice too.

It is amazing, truly, how easily we can focus on o...

2009-04-06T23:26:00.000-05:00

It is amazing, truly, how easily we can focus on only what happens in our lives, and only on how we see those events. That person cut me off so I'm mad - meanwhile that person was rushing to get a child out in the cold at school, thinking how kind it was that I let them in front of him. Right now, I am too much like a mule with blinders on. I am focused on what must happen before our move, and the career change looming large in the immediate future. Meanwhile others are dealing with the day to day life that will barely change for them when I am gone. Even here, I am noticing in your post how much it applies to me. Yet, that is how so many of us are, especially in adulthood. I-me-now-here is what matters most to so many of us.

Fascinating post.

So well done. If she can take in only some of thi...

2009-04-06T16:35:00.000-05:00

So well done. If she can take in only some of this, she will be a happier and better person for it. You're a good mom, as I think I have said before.
It's always so hard when you come late and can't play; one of the hardest things for adults as well as children. The older I get, the more I know that people are what they are, not likely to change, and that what I need to do is appreciate them for what they are, not want them to be what I need.
Easier to say than to do, of course. Is there room on your lap?