tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post7766201435332925773..comments2023-09-29T06:00:09.242-05:00Comments on Julie Pippert: Using My Words: An ounce of snake is worth a pound of fearJulie Pipperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-37759416135847832852007-06-20T08:20:00.000-05:002007-06-20T08:20:00.000-05:00The smaller the snake the more fear I have of it. ...The smaller the snake the more fear I have of it. It makes no sense. I guess that's what happens when you grow up around teensy garden snakes.Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-66009148367819556382007-06-20T08:09:00.000-05:002007-06-20T08:09:00.000-05:00And I did blog about that, and managed to tie it i...And I did blog about that, and managed to tie it into the Hump Day Hmmm as well. <A HREF="http://snoskred.blogspot.com/2007/06/accident-of-birth-scary-country.html" REL="nofollow">Accident of birth - the SCARY country</A> . Hope you get a chance to read it. :)Snoskredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12670406702782244306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-74977147941225447682007-06-20T03:31:00.000-05:002007-06-20T03:31:00.000-05:00I used to have a terrible fear of snakes.. I must ...I used to have a terrible fear of snakes.. I must blog about what changed that, it might be useful to you. ;)<BR/><BR/>Yes, I finally found my way here in the midst of general chaos and blogging chick commenting. :) Adding you to the google reader, sidebar, technorati favourites, etc. Don't laugh, but I have a system going on, it's nothing anal retentive or obsessive compulsive or anything like that, it's what they call "organization" which is spelt with an S rather than a Z in Australia - land of many snakes.Snoskredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12670406702782244306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-30234406698604092162007-06-19T23:09:00.000-05:002007-06-19T23:09:00.000-05:00julie, i hate that i keep missing the hump days. ...julie, i hate that i keep missing the hump days. i will be better.<BR/><BR/>there were many terrifying things in my childhood that i never told anyone. ever. i simply never thought of it.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-55677837961240909772007-06-19T21:47:00.000-05:002007-06-19T21:47:00.000-05:00Wednesday post is up. ~ChaniWednesday post is up. <BR/><BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-7442398680005238382007-06-19T21:31:00.000-05:002007-06-19T21:31:00.000-05:00I really liked this, and the dicussion that follow...I really liked this, and the dicussion that followed. I'm sorry, too, that you were mocked ina way for your fears--so many people do this, out of force of habit, I suppose.Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-52331178045369244502007-06-19T20:57:00.000-05:002007-06-19T20:57:00.000-05:00What you said about parents not knowing the things...What you said about parents not knowing the things that impacted us...that is so true. <BR/><BR/>And the thing is, its not always the Big Things...I have one weird memory involving a candy bar that can make me cry even now when talking about it. Yet I'm sure it wasn't even a blip on my parent's radar. Someday, the way I had my child a Kleenex could create the turning point in his life. So strange. <BR/><BR/>I am now about 0 for 35 on Hump Day Hmms. I always enjoy reading them and yet never seem to get my act together to think through and write one. *sigh*Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07316677018586769316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-65720902657736460602007-06-19T18:38:00.000-05:002007-06-19T18:38:00.000-05:00I am unable to find the link to your email on your...I am unable to find the link to your email on your page here. I am a bit confused about a message. Can you please send me a note? <BR/><BR/>thailandchani at earthlink<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>~Chthailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-88646762727558823522007-06-19T17:17:00.000-05:002007-06-19T17:17:00.000-05:00Kyla, OMG can you stand it...I watched (with the k...Kyla, OMG can you stand it...I watched (with the kids no less, there goes my mommy of the year trophy) a special on Dicsovery (?) about killer bees.<BR/><BR/>I am MEGA freaking out now.<BR/><BR/>I think this is why the local bees have vanished.<BR/><BR/>My SIL, gardener extraordinaire, had to hand pollinate her garden.<BR/><BR/>No bees.<BR/><BR/>I got stung in my ear by a bee when I was 2. I remember it. Who could forget?<BR/><BR/>Yeah, I think I will assume my kids have an entire life outside me and will grill them a la Kim about it.<BR/><BR/>Flutter, yes, absolutely, that is it exactly.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-29512455904747165602007-06-19T16:53:00.000-05:002007-06-19T16:53:00.000-05:00I have a similar fear of bees, wasps, yellowjacket...I have a similar fear of bees, wasps, yellowjackets...anything that goes "Buzz, buzz." and has a stinger. <BR/><BR/>Interesting topics, both the forming of your phobia and the idea of what our children will be shaped by without our knowledge. Great post.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-37828713870281068072007-06-19T16:50:00.000-05:002007-06-19T16:50:00.000-05:00OOOOHHHHH scary as hell. I cannot abide by a snake...OOOOHHHHH scary as hell. I cannot abide by a snake, they are lovely and freak me right outflutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-56589085743908313812007-06-19T16:31:00.000-05:002007-06-19T16:31:00.000-05:00Chani, yeah, absolutely, kids were kind of this ge...Chani, yeah, absolutely, kids were kind of this generic "one size fits all" lump back then.<BR/><BR/>Mike, thanks, look forward to it.<BR/><BR/>Kim, totally legitimate fear (and obviously one I share). My kids will continue to find me all up in their bidness because I *know* what I don't know will warp them. :) Also? Totally get the bird thing. Germs. And those BEAKS.<BR/><BR/>M-L OMG that was the movie!!!! LOL! Impressive knowledge!<BR/><BR/>And exactly...that's what a phobia is. It's not rational or reasonable. As afraid as I am of snakes, I am so much more afraid of (as Kim put it) what my kids don't tell me but are warped by.<BR/><BR/>Jenny, that is probably part 2 of this. I have NO IDEA why I didn't tell my parents half these things. It wasn't a rational reason. I just didn't. Now the sacry movie...I probably chose not to tell in order for all of us to not get in trouble. But like the time I saw a kid get stuck by lightning? How did that not come up? Yes...that is the really scary part.<BR/><BR/>Maybe Kim and Mary will have some good tips for us. :)Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-31285510671751176582007-06-19T16:17:00.000-05:002007-06-19T16:17:00.000-05:00Okay, scary snakes aside, what a freaking great to...Okay, scary snakes aside, what a freaking great topic. Yeah, there was a ton of stuff I never told me parents...why? And how do I get Hailey to tell me?<BR/><BR/>Damn. That's the real scary part.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-53596987696661227832007-06-19T15:01:00.000-05:002007-06-19T15:01:00.000-05:00Was the movie SSSSSSSSSSSSS with Strother Martin? ...Was the movie SSSSSSSSSSSSS with Strother Martin? THAT was a freaky movie!<BR/><BR/>I am full or "irrational" fears. Heights, confined spaces, tornadoes, earthquakes. I always laugh it off but I get irritated when someone laughs at my fear and tries to reason me out of it. It is not a reasoned fear, you can't reason yourself out of it. You might be able to reason yourself into managing your response, but still. . .<BR/><BR/>I will never forget going to Griffith Park observatory with Paul before we were married. We walked up to the roof but the building is right at the edge of a hill and when I looked down, my body immediately went into a crouch position. I could not stand up straight. I felt ridiculous but my body took over and my brain was useless to me.<BR/><BR/>Later on that same visit, we were inside when lights started flashing and sirens started blaring. A red sign blinking "Earthquake Alert" caught my attention and I just about crapped my pants. Now, there was no earth moving. It was just their fun little way of alerting visitors to the fact that <I>somewhere</I> in the western United States an earthquake of 4.0 magnitude or greater had just occurred. <I>Um. Thanks for the warning. NOT!</I><BR/><BR/>I have never returned to Griffith Park Observatory.<BR/><BR/>(I didn't even touch on the REAL subject of this post, what shapes us that our parents don't know about. Obviously the subject of phobias opened up the floodgates!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10270726693980247861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-66152374806252103982007-06-19T14:11:00.000-05:002007-06-19T14:11:00.000-05:00I grill my children relentlessly because I fear wh...I grill my children relentlessly because I fear what I don't know will warp them. I'm much more comfortable with my incessant questioning damaging them instead.<BR/><BR/>Snakes are creepy, but birds are it for me. And no I didn't watch Hitchcock's movie. I have no idea why the extreme phobia.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-5393095965617564382007-06-19T13:02:00.000-05:002007-06-19T13:02:00.000-05:00Great blog!!I will be back!-0-0-Great blog!!<BR/><BR/>I will be back!<BR/><BR/>-0-0-Mike Minzeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475218626898693458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-32286011910951999472007-06-19T09:48:00.000-05:002007-06-19T09:48:00.000-05:00I don't think our parents ever had a real sense of...I don't think our parents ever had a real sense of us as individuals ~ at least not in the 50s and 60s. We wouldn't have talked to our parents about these things at all. <BR/><BR/>And I hate teasing! That is something that just makes me.. um.. kind of angry. :)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-52139596648046355832007-06-19T09:12:00.000-05:002007-06-19T09:12:00.000-05:00Eh ladies, it was the 70s...very different approac...Eh ladies, it was the 70s...very different approaches then. It appals us now, but I suspect that even if I had told my parents? They wouldhave felt badly for me but would have felt compelled to echo the teacher about obeying rown-ups.<BR/><BR/>And we wonder at the abused people who do not speak up and the suppresion of self.<BR/><BR/>I'm okay LOL about my phobia when it is funny. Being a little light-hearted has helped me get some perspective and work my way somewhat through it LOL.<BR/><BR/>The expectation that I ought to "just get over it" because it is "completely unfounded" does bug me though, so (for example) my friend's impatience gets me a little aggravated at times.<BR/><BR/>I think at this point I have a healthy fear, as LM put it. And that is a point to ponder, especially after so much discussion: healthy fear.<BR/><BR/>LM, I am so thinking about this idea of what shapes you but your parents never knew a lot.<BR/><BR/>There has to be some space between parent and child. I'm just trying to consider what I didnt tell and why I didn't tell it, and what might have been different had I told...figure out if there is anythign I ought to do as a parent, or maybe as my parents' child, LOL.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-72254338618188838752007-06-19T08:52:00.000-05:002007-06-19T08:52:00.000-05:00Oops. Here's the post:http://www.slouchingmom.com...Oops. Here's the post:<BR/><BR/>http://www.slouchingmom.com/2007/01/there-will-be-many-missteps-there-just_21.htmlShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-67588933470472694482007-06-19T08:51:00.000-05:002007-06-19T08:51:00.000-05:00Oh, Julie. That teacher was horrendous. What stu...Oh, Julie. That teacher was horrendous. What stunning lack of empathy. I'm so sorry.<BR/><BR/>You might be interested in a post I wrote early on about this exact topic and my own fears:<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://www.slouchingmom.com/2007/01/there-will-be-many-missteps-there-just_21.html" REL="nofollow"></A><BR/><BR/>I wish people wouldn't laugh at what is a very real fear for you.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-82874771963771499102007-06-19T08:46:00.000-05:002007-06-19T08:46:00.000-05:00I'd never really thought about it before, but you'...I'd never really thought about it before, but you're right. My parents don't know about most of my defining childhood moments. That really does give a parent pause, doesn't it?<BR/><BR/>I'm absolutely horrified at that teacher & the zoo snake handler! I don't have a snake problem, but I can totally see how it developed in you.<BR/><BR/>I do, however, have a healthy fear of snakes. I have a photo somewhere of the 7 foot (slanty eyed) snake that crawled out of our drainage ditch last year. Eek!Lawyer Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06819273107327846943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-47100603016264512192007-06-19T06:57:00.000-05:002007-06-19T06:57:00.000-05:00Oh this was an interesting one today! First, I do...Oh this was an interesting one today! <BR/><BR/>First, I don't think your fear of snakes is weird. I think it is interesting how these fears make people want to rescue or change us. But in the scheme of things it isn't debilitating (say like extreme fear of crowds) and just part of who we are, kwim?<BR/><BR/> That zoo worker and that teacher are awful! They probably thought they were doing the right thing, but it is so clear now that it wasn't.<BR/><BR/>And your point about how your parents don't know half of what you did. So true! I was by no means a terror as a grade schooler or high schooler, but so many things happened that formed much of who I am . And they have no idea.<BR/><BR/>And I totally forgot about the Hump Day Hmmmm! I got carried away with my other post. Maybe i'll tackle it another day, it is a very interesting question.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.com