tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post8233579246921244367..comments2023-09-29T06:00:09.242-05:00Comments on Julie Pippert: Using My Words: A Blue Christmas With YouJulie Pipperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-4951034458390813242007-12-20T15:50:00.000-06:002007-12-20T15:50:00.000-06:00Oh Julie, I am about to cry over the fact that you...Oh Julie, I am about to cry over the fact that you had to live through such an ordeal. It pains me when everyone excuses terrible behavior people someone is "old". I wish your extended family members could have found the strength to stand up to this one person. This obviously mean person. <BR/><BR/>I can totally understand why you have made the split. You are wonderfully whole as you deserve to be!Momishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14628200778996614699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-12519672721823152352007-12-20T11:41:00.000-06:002007-12-20T11:41:00.000-06:00What a terrible story, Julie. I'm not all that sur...What a terrible story, Julie. I'm not all that surprised by your grandmother. I had a similar battle-axe in my family. What I am flattened by is the fact that no one took your side, no one doubted the reliability of the mail, no one whispered to you that this old woman is a cross that everyone was trying to bear. That is what was so heart-wrenching in this story.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-47971132350605862442007-12-20T04:19:00.000-06:002007-12-20T04:19:00.000-06:00Wow. I'm a little late with this but... holy CRAP!...Wow. I'm a little late with this but... holy CRAP!<BR/><BR/>Sounds to me like you are much better off without a family like that. It's sad... yes... but that story just knocked my socks off. I can't believe how awful that Grandmother was.reddirtroadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02746621272363827712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-67816385867131840662007-12-19T14:40:00.000-06:002007-12-19T14:40:00.000-06:00Oh sweetie - my heart breaks into a thousand piece...Oh sweetie - my heart breaks into a thousand pieces for you and I feel your pain and anger and embarrassment. My Nana, who I have written about, was cut from the very same cloth. I, unfortunately, have too many stories just like this one, stored away in the dusty attic of my mind.b*babblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17494191160073990465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-25501442724346475262007-12-19T04:49:00.000-06:002007-12-19T04:49:00.000-06:00I have nothing to say. Amazng story. Sad.I have nothing to say. Amazng story. Sad.Trixie Twatwafflehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12712977707578497875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-89994834363064467062007-12-18T18:30:00.000-06:002007-12-18T18:30:00.000-06:00I'm speechless. Just speechless.All I can think i...I'm speechless. Just speechless.<BR/><BR/>All I can think is that I'm so glad you escaped a family filled with so much cruelty and cowardice, cruelty on the part of your grandmother, and cowardice on the part of your family for allowing it to happen.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-61575304509501481242007-12-18T17:05:00.000-06:002007-12-18T17:05:00.000-06:00I didn't realize we belonged to the same family.I didn't realize we belonged to the same family.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-9817709994490720592007-12-18T14:05:00.000-06:002007-12-18T14:05:00.000-06:00oi! That's terrible. And my advice on the ring? Ge...oi! That's terrible. And my advice on the ring? Get rid of it...I just stumbled over some things when packing my house that brought me to the bottom, things I had hidden like that. And you know what? The only thing they do is bring you back to that place and you don't need that; guilt jewlery. I'm glad you left them.Wayfarer Scientistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07996334636311497271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-55685775454256210692007-12-18T08:32:00.000-06:002007-12-18T08:32:00.000-06:00What a horrible story. Good for you, for coming ou...What a horrible story. Good for you, for coming out of that whole. <BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://www.athenadreaming.org/Beanie" REL="nofollow">Andrea</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-62589050094349668882007-12-18T06:41:00.000-06:002007-12-18T06:41:00.000-06:00I come from that, too. I hope you have a lovely Ch...I come from that, too. I hope you have a lovely Christmas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-74103064112946181752007-12-18T05:50:00.000-06:002007-12-18T05:50:00.000-06:00oh, julie.oh, friend.i'm awfully sorry.oh, julie.<BR/>oh, friend.<BR/>i'm awfully sorry.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-69773958714678474452007-12-17T23:44:00.000-06:002007-12-17T23:44:00.000-06:00oh julie. ack. there is no way to express how sor...oh julie. ack. there is no way to express how sorry i am you had to endure that, and, apparently, worsepainted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-54579027325276169722007-12-17T21:06:00.000-06:002007-12-17T21:06:00.000-06:00You know... I've been mulling this around in my he...You know... I've been mulling this around in my head most of the day... and what gets me is that they all made a concerted effort to do this... and how awfully, awfully hurt you must have been. I just cannot imagine.<BR/>And, like all your other commenters mentioned - how amazing that you had the ego strength to realize it was not you - but them - and break away.MyThreeBlogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817857109007712976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-75760870831435449062007-12-17T20:30:00.000-06:002007-12-17T20:30:00.000-06:00*hugs* I can see your strength from here. :^) Me...*hugs* I can see your strength from here. :^) Merry Christmas.<BR/><BR/>anne at annenahm.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-87787603337614713392007-12-17T20:18:00.000-06:002007-12-17T20:18:00.000-06:00Holy cow, what a cruel old woman. I'm quite speech...Holy cow, what a cruel old woman. I'm quite speechless.theotherbearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12592106243268321644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-42171930756577296762007-12-17T20:15:00.000-06:002007-12-17T20:15:00.000-06:00Wow.Will we get the sequel?Wow.<BR/><BR/>Will we get the sequel?Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-21275915749726713572007-12-17T20:04:00.000-06:002007-12-17T20:04:00.000-06:00Oh, Julie. ((HUGS)) You rock, sweetie. To be ab...Oh, Julie. ((HUGS)) You rock, sweetie. To be able to separate yourself like that takes a lot of inner strength.<BR/><BR/>I can really relate to this post. Not necessarily the overt cruelty, but the manipulation and the mind games, yes. It's never a fun way to live and at some point you have to say, "Enough!" Good for you.Lawyer Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06819273107327846943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-88861574232087156732007-12-17T19:21:00.000-06:002007-12-17T19:21:00.000-06:00I haven't read all the comments, but I just wanted...I haven't read all the comments, but I just wanted to say, wow. I am so sorry. Your story caught be like a punch in the stomach.<BR/><BR/>I don't get how people who are so crazy can be be surrounded by people who act like everything is NORMAL. I have had experiences myself where I look around and think...can't anyone else see that this is not normal, is not healthy, is not right?<BR/><BR/>You are better off staying out of the way and creating your own happiness. Thank goodness you found a good man who loved you for who you were and did not judge you for your family.Mary Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08923591889426758103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-87280155727713788092007-12-17T17:10:00.000-06:002007-12-17T17:10:00.000-06:00Oh, Julie.I think I'm most horrified by the fact t...Oh, Julie.<BR/><BR/>I think I'm most horrified by the fact that other family members went along with her ... "lesson."<BR/><BR/>You did the right thing. Absolutely.<BR/><BR/>I'm still reeling. What cruelty.Cathy, Amy and Kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01472486650115997239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-66863239583228511512007-12-17T16:35:00.000-06:002007-12-17T16:35:00.000-06:00But see how you are breaking the cycle?But see how you are breaking the cycle?flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-75791411686899541142007-12-17T16:25:00.000-06:002007-12-17T16:25:00.000-06:00Great answer Julie. Thanks for obliging my questio...Great answer Julie. Thanks for obliging my question so thoroughly with so much heart and emotion. I hope you have a warm and beautiful Christmas.Jeff and Charli Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13868852480996815442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-9067784775299001172007-12-17T16:08:00.000-06:002007-12-17T16:08:00.000-06:00I'm so sorry that all of this happened to you. Ba...I'm so sorry that all of this happened to you. Batsh&^t crazy doesn't begin to describe it.Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14382885000205172615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-32659566972138344282007-12-17T15:38:00.000-06:002007-12-17T15:38:00.000-06:00Wow. I am so sorry. And I totally understand. Afte...Wow. I am so sorry. And I totally understand. After FORCING my husband to reconcile with family as ill- fitted for social niceties as yours, we were ousted after a misunderstanding just about as petty. They thought we knew his Mom was hospitalized and we purposely never wrote, called or visited. Problem was, no one bothered to tell us a few hundred miles away. The father wrote us off- never met his grandchildren- even forcing the mother to lie to us as he lay dying so that my husband would have no opportunity to make amends. My husband slipped a well- worn watch into the cold man's casket telling him, for the time we never had.<BR/> The mother is now part of our faminly, calling, emailing and visiting and makes no excuses for the things she did to please her husband- a man who missed out on so so much.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376100534890229940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-66995603700535458602007-12-17T15:36:00.000-06:002007-12-17T15:36:00.000-06:00*whistles* That is an experience to READ, I'm sure...*whistles* That is an experience to READ, I'm sure it was quite a bit more to LIVE. Wow. I must say, you've turned out lovely, in spite of their ugliness.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-71892909741867925202007-12-17T15:32:00.000-06:002007-12-17T15:32:00.000-06:00Julie, Julie - how sad and awful - and I'm happy y...Julie, Julie - how sad and awful - and I'm happy you disowned them and you are in one piece. I'm sorry it had to get worse - that's hard to imagine - and isn't it amazing to find someone to face that with you and not run (yeah! Jon!). Whatever you left out, whatever inspires you to protect them even a little bit, is an amazing quality of forbearance you have there friend. <BR/>Merry Christmas indeed! With the family you chose, created and cherish. I think you should start a gag with the ring, whoever gets disowned next gets to hold it until the next person to be disowned needs a chance.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09390898429089863816noreply@blogger.com