tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post2811938346077591137..comments2023-09-29T06:00:09.242-05:00Comments on Julie Pippert: Using My Words: When reality TV goes right...right into your own psycheJulie Pipperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-12094514736141424362007-05-03T14:18:00.000-05:002007-05-03T14:18:00.000-05:00Aimee, I wonder the same thing. And great scott, a...Aimee, I wonder the same thing. And great scott, anyone refers to any junk in trunk, support from me for anything you say (or do). The Roloff kids do all seem nice.<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Christina, see, and that is why I don't get the need to state the obvious that way. I se your similar situation every day. My friend's about 3 yo is the size of my 5 yo. It's tough for the kid b/c people mistake (and expect her to be) a 5 yo. Then rather than simply say, "Oh, sorry, my bad..." they somehow have to make it the kid's "fault" for being big...and add on predictions about what she'll be later in life. Inexplicable. Annoying.<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Kyla, you should go read Rob (linked in the post). He's pretty honest about his daughter, himself, what they see, etc. Their story is different, of course, than yours, but it might be relateable. I hear you on your concern. I'm not even sure the best thing for it. I do think the important thing is that K has a loving family, and has loving people in her life so whatever she encounters out there won't come to define her in her mind KWIM? I think that's true for any kid, actually.<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Sparky, yeah, I can completely imagine it's tough on either end of the spectrum. You know, I find it very cool that you do not feel the need to handle it all, and step back and let her do her thing. And thanks. :)Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-87615789414106094672007-05-01T15:09:00.000-05:002007-05-01T15:09:00.000-05:00Mrs Duck is short, 4'8 short and while I can't spe...Mrs Duck is short, 4'8 short and while I can't speak for her because she has lived with it all her life (amongst other things) and I have just dealt with her height for a few years, their are still things that annoy me.<BR/><BR/>People still stare. I take great pleasure in staring right back!<BR/>People at counters ignore her. Which is why I let her do the talking, to make them realize what an idiot they are.<BR/>People say insensitive things, though luckily it is no longer a joke, its more like a foot in mouth item.<BR/><BR/>great post thoughSparky Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10599649584020982942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-51817286533944530342007-05-01T09:06:00.000-05:002007-05-01T09:06:00.000-05:00"see it, then look past it" Perfectly stated, Juli..."see it, then look past it" Perfectly stated, Julie. <BR/><BR/>I think about things like this a lot, because of KayTar. Her differences aren't always visible at first glance, but they are noticeable. I wonder what sort of comments she will have to endure, especially once she starts school.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-43429016543991392022007-05-01T07:48:00.000-05:002007-05-01T07:48:00.000-05:00Oh, I always have my fill of stupid comments about...Oh, I always have my fill of stupid comments about my daughter. She's two and a half, but stands 38" tall. <BR/><BR/>Strangers either assume she's much older than she actually is, or they make comments about how enormous she is, how she'll play basketball one day and no one will ever mess with her because she could squish them. <BR/><BR/>Yes, she's an Amazon - we get it.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-55964677033239391412007-04-30T13:46:00.000-05:002007-04-30T13:46:00.000-05:00This is a great post. I've always been of the "why...This is a great post. I've always been of the "why would you even mention it" mindset. People say things that make me cringe on a daily basis. It might be appear uncaring (when I'm not prying into someone's business) but it seriously invokes a horrible physical response in me when someone says something that I think its inappropriate (like what you're talking about).<BR/><BR/>I love the roloffs. I just want to squeeze Zach because he's just such a nice kid. A nice teenager is a rare find, indeed. haha.<BR/><BR/>I'm a thick girl - and I think I should be very thankful that no one has asked me "what I'm gonna do with all that junk inside my trunk" :)Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16545997231998176325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-38976578032330427802007-04-30T11:42:00.000-05:002007-04-30T11:42:00.000-05:00Scribbit, oooh those are better examples than I ca...Scribbit, oooh those are better examples than I came up with. I absolutely agree with you.<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>SM, I'm sure it's not meant as a pejorative with most people. Still, there are cases.<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Aliki, thanks! I confessed a bit of skepticism. I mean, it is edited. I also admit to going to the family site and seeing their Q&As and blog posts. LOL<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Lawyer Mama, DUDE! Oh WRONG!<BR/><BR/>No doubt people can say and do stupid things.<BR/><BR/>This goes back to my assertion that the saying, "Words can never hurt me," is false. <BR/><BR/>Do you know...I once had a boss who required me to always be seated because I was about half a foot taller than he? And he couldn't stand it? I had no name. I was just The Tall One. I LOL about it but a part of me was like WTF?<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Mayberry, oh yes. And you're welcome. Did you ever read that book?<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>Ali, well I'm glad you took the time today! Oh trust me, I'm sure we've all done it and meant it well. I admitted I have! If I strike wrong, I do try to say something about sorry. I might also be more sensitive, having heard just oh so many comments. :)<BR/><BR/>**<BR/><BR/>You know, thinking more about the idea of commenting on height and meaning it as a compliment, as in, "Oh wow, you're so tall! You're so lucky!" it strikes me that there are a couple of issues at play:<BR/><BR/> (a) commenting on appearance, even if meant well, and on something that is a Stand Out feature, such as height, likely will always hit a button because for exery compliment there are probably four bad memories, and people often just don't want it noticed, which leads to <BR/><BR/>(b) feeling uncomfortable with our bodies (my last post) and how we look and not feeling comfortable with compliments.<BR/><BR/>Ali mentioned her height and shoe size. I have also had my feet commented upon!<BR/><BR/>I think...somewhere we got "average" and "ideal" mixed up!<BR/><BR/>Now anyone anywhere past "center" on the spectrum feels "off."<BR/><BR/>I wonder if people have always been so obsessed.<BR/><BR/>Next point re. tallness being a point of envy.<BR/><BR/>I realize height is often esteemed. I understand that insecurity and some degree of jealousy often motivates some of the comments. But again, in that case, it is often meant to Put me Down, Cut me Down to Size...KWIM? If someone feels at a disadvantage, they might want to even things up a bit.<BR/><BR/>But like Scribbit said above, I'd never look at a shorter person and say, "Wow, you must be a jockey!"<BR/><BR/>I try to steer away from statements of the obvious that are unecessary, and stick to compliments that are obvious, (and more in our control), such as, "Your new haircut is really flattering," or "I like that outfit, very elegant."Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-17319323102686810732007-04-30T06:28:00.000-05:002007-04-30T06:28:00.000-05:00I often read your blog - though I don't think I've...I often read your blog - though I don't think I've commented before.<BR/><BR/>I'm 5'2" with the shoe size of someone who is at least 5'10". I guess that makes me a 'well grounded' person...<BR/><BR/>I'm grateful for scribbit's comment because I was thinking of all the times I've commented on someone's physical attributes upon meeting them and slowly shrinking into the mirky mire of 'Oh, I'm a totally clueless moron'. This may still be true of course, however I only ever comment as a compliment. Whew!<BR/><BR/>AliMaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309794913406397044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-84937957223830009812007-04-29T23:04:00.000-05:002007-04-29T23:04:00.000-05:00I absolutely HATE "I don't know how you do it." Th...I absolutely HATE "I don't know how you do it." Thank you for pointing out how annoying and insulting it is.Mayberryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342826784650208124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-91279373412090666252007-04-29T20:15:00.000-05:002007-04-29T20:15:00.000-05:00Oh yes, I love that show too. My nephew has down ...Oh yes, I love that show too. My nephew has down syndrome and so many of the comments... Well, people can say really. stupid. things.<BR/><BR/>I'm a shortie & about a month ago I had a partner in my firm drag me into his office - "You have to hear this!" And play that annoying song about short people for me. You know, "short people got no reason to live"? Lovely.Lawyer Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06819273107327846943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-63771886882564399142007-04-29T18:53:00.000-05:002007-04-29T18:53:00.000-05:00Excellent post--I love that show too, and watch it...Excellent post--I love that show too, and watch it often. My husband is skeptical about the "realness" of it (but he's often skeptical about shows portraying real people) but I try to watch it when I can.Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-15962690562501344792007-04-29T18:51:00.000-05:002007-04-29T18:51:00.000-05:00Ah, but you see as a relatively short person, I ye...Ah, but you see as a relatively short person, I yearn to be tall. For me, tall is not pejorative. Quite the opposite. I am jealous!<BR/><BR/>Now, short... ;)<BR/><BR/>(This is entirely and willfully off-topic.)Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-49424541065930959322007-04-29T17:04:00.000-05:002007-04-29T17:04:00.000-05:00Cracks me up. I get so tired of people asking me ...Cracks me up. I get so tired of people asking me if I play basketball. I was always taught it was rude to comment on anyone's physical characteristics unless to compliment them on their appearance.<BR/><BR/>I would never say, "Gosh, are you a sumo wrestler?" or "Wow, you must be a jockey!" Why is it okay for me to be considered a basketball player?Scribbithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03178711182424809035noreply@blogger.com