tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post6864370684635635300..comments2023-09-29T06:00:09.242-05:00Comments on Julie Pippert: Using My Words: Whistling DixieJulie Pipperthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-2153490459045210082008-01-07T08:45:00.000-06:002008-01-07T08:45:00.000-06:00Authormomwithdogs, you know that's one point that'...Authormomwithdogs, you know that's one point that's sticking with me. One among many. Chani has often advised that we shouldn't be so open-minded that our brains fall out.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps sometimes we ought to be horrified by some things said, although I agree it means we shouldn't assume it's completely indicative of the whole character of the person.<BR/><BR/>I've also been thinking a lot about nice, and the obligation therein to be nice.<BR/><BR/>****<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the comments about Patience's art. Sometimes we get so used to how amazing she is that common becomes normal. Luckily lots of people point out to us how that is not so. :)<BR/><BR/>***<BR/><BR/>In answer to Melissa's question...yes, Patience has accurately reflected a fair distribution of mom and dad characteristics handed down, more or less. I mean, it's sort of complicated.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-23020789755115457622008-01-07T08:36:00.000-06:002008-01-07T08:36:00.000-06:00Melissa, you are 100% right. :) You know exactly o...Melissa, you are 100% right. :) You know exactly of what you speak, LOL. Except neither my husband nor I went to that school. Although our asses might be pansified. LOL ;)Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-16126155267792697212008-01-07T07:59:00.000-06:002008-01-07T07:59:00.000-06:00I taught Kindergarten before I had the bunny and I...I taught Kindergarten before I had the bunny and I have to say that I am VERY impressed by that picture! WOW! Just WOW!Multi-tasking Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02379488091050026867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-52698352116154199292008-01-07T07:54:00.000-06:002008-01-07T07:54:00.000-06:00Ditto. Amazing picture.As for "Small" and his coho...Ditto. Amazing picture.<BR/><BR/>As for "Small" and his cohorts... Yes, of course, there's always more to the story. But sometimes I think we get so worried about being judgmental that we let it move us away from something that we know is an accurate assessment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-28747962738586599172008-01-07T07:43:00.000-06:002008-01-07T07:43:00.000-06:00I could go and make your point for you by drawing ...I could go and make your point for you by drawing sterotypes of the town I'm pretty sure you were in, knowing what I know about where you live, where your hubby grew up, and what his profession is. But that would be wrong. Mostly...:) But I can say that the animosity, and I live in the town that is home to the "pansy school" (if I'm right,that is), does not go both ways. Except on game days. That has always struck me as odd. If I'm right, let me know and I can tell you a story about my first job interview out of college which relates DIRECTLY to the attitude of that otherwise fine institution of higher learning.<BR/><BR/>As for the picture...the blending is great! I hope you realize (though you probably do) that P is much more insightful than most children her age (from what I can tell). Although one child seems to have more of Dad's characteristics than yours. Is this true? :)<BR/><BR/>Ok, enough of the rambling...I'm cutting into my own posting time!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-37206677452248175852008-01-07T07:20:00.000-06:002008-01-07T07:20:00.000-06:00I guess I'll be the first one to say that I'm stru...I guess I'll be the first one to say that I'm struck by the picture your daughter drew. The amount of understanding it demonstrates... just wow.<BR/><BR/>As for the post, I've been where you are, and I've been guilty of the same fault you have. Sometimes, I say something, but usually I just shake my head (inside).SciFi Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479890087443823197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-17802990773532287832008-01-06T22:43:00.000-06:002008-01-06T22:43:00.000-06:00"polarization complete." I love that line.It's so..."polarization complete." I love that line.<BR/><BR/>It's so difficult not to make judgments about others. It's human nature to put others in categories, to break them down, to simplify. I have to admit that I would probably have had a similar snap back reaction.Lawyer Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06819273107327846943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-71426678017023772662008-01-06T16:39:00.000-06:002008-01-06T16:39:00.000-06:00Interesting. I wonder what people would think abo...Interesting. I wonder what people would think about the conversations I have?flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-10365526764822911072008-01-06T14:52:00.000-06:002008-01-06T14:52:00.000-06:00Interesting observations, Julie! I am often appal...Interesting observations, Julie! I am often appalled by the things some people say or think - you just want to walk over and tell them what you think. <BR/><BR/>Hope you are having a good weekend - see you soon. KellanKellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882991320065439298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-10384726188785197392008-01-06T12:35:00.000-06:002008-01-06T12:35:00.000-06:00Nicely written. And you are right...it is such sma...Nicely written. And you are right...it is such small moments that may be defining, whether it is our perception of others or their perception of us. And it is always these small moments that categorize any group, the polarizing moments.Wayfarer Scientistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07996334636311497271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-39748392520344601042008-01-06T11:39:00.000-06:002008-01-06T11:39:00.000-06:00good lord, what a moment in time.good lord, what a moment in time.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-36018874835467069092008-01-06T10:43:00.000-06:002008-01-06T10:43:00.000-06:00Nice tail.Nice tail.Memarie Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03289584923725420572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-90229677728286889662008-01-06T09:36:00.000-06:002008-01-06T09:36:00.000-06:00Emily, I agree it's a slippery slope to danger, as...Emily, I agree it's a slippery slope to danger, assuming things.<BR/><BR/>Of course In The Moment is but a thumbnail. And as long as we keep that in mind, and perspective that it's assuming not knowing, I think it's a largely benign activity.<BR/><BR/>I think it's a bit of human nature to try for a sense of who another person is, and to be curious about others and what they are saying.<BR/><BR/>I tried to convey not so much the danger in assumption or too much about me assuming or them assuming, but more that transition point from benign to malignant talk. KWIM?<BR/><BR/>It's not a pretty picture of any of us, but I wanted to show how you can cross a line with a nasty statement and all of the sudden it goes from benign to malignant, from open to closed, from together in a moment to polarized...negatively reinforcing stereotypes.<BR/><BR/>***<BR/><BR/>Christine, thanks, that's a pretty high compliment and I appreciate it.<BR/><BR/>It was a really frustrating moment; I absolutely felt myself shut down and add a line to a stereotype. I felt myself doing that emotionally even as my head screamed lines of logic. I was as frustrated with myself as I was with these men, who just said some horrible things. I'm not sure I've come out the other end of the tunnel on this issue yet, completely.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-25139158245818853312008-01-06T09:10:00.000-06:002008-01-06T09:10:00.000-06:00It's a dangerous place to go, assuming things abou...It's a dangerous place to go, assuming things about people. I watch, and I try to imagine, but I know I am always wrong. I think the people I imagine things about also imagine things about me, and they are probably wrong, as well.<BR/><BR/>EmilyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13083972.post-5861998722871883182008-01-06T08:34:00.000-06:002008-01-06T08:34:00.000-06:00wow julie. this was a powerful post, and so well ...wow julie. this was a powerful post, and so well written. i felt like i was in that bar with you, hearing this conversation.<BR/> <BR/>and that last line really rounded it all out: "polarization complete." you have an amazing ability to see your self and others with such clarity. <BR/> <BR/>and i have done the same thing--in my disgust or annoyance at another's attitude or prejudice, i end up creating my own caricature of that person in my head. something i am not proud of.<BR/> <BR/><A HREF="http://runningonempty-christine.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">Running on empty</A>Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.com