This is a two part post: the good news and the bad news. I know I ought to do the bad news first so we can end on a good note, but eh, I'm more interested in the good news. This way, you can read the good and skip down to the awesome Hump Day Hmm links if you prefer to opt out of a rant.
So here it is: I've got a pretty good thing going right now.
Good thing 1: We're going on a trip to MASSACHUSETTS and NEW HAMPSHIRE
Museums! Fall! Color! Leaves! Long sleeves! Story Land!
October is a big month for us every year. In fact, we are just one endless party here the entire last quarter of every year. But October is special. It's one of my favorite months (or used to be, before I moved to Hades). It's Jon's birthday. He's turning older (aren't we all?). It's also the month we got married in.
Good thing 2: That marriage? Happened 14 years ago. No joke.
Married 14 years.
In relationship 16 years.
Known one another 19 years.
Is that some kind of crazy or what?
Good thing 3: Couples time alone.
By happy chance the hubs and I are getting two weekends without children in the near future. (I know!) At hotels. One is a resort. (Could you see me shudder with unsuppressed joy?) And next spring? LAS VEGAS! Jon won a weekend at one of the hotels in Vegas during one conference he attended.
Have we passed the word good and gone on to great yet?
And my blog...whatever will it do with all these goings-on in my life?
It might not be as active. We are discussing whether we take the laptop with us as we gallivant. (Oh yes I did, I used the word gallivant, in reference to myself.)
I'm going to ask my sister if she'll help, and I've put out a feeler here and there for some other support. It'll work out. If we do take the laptop, it might just be fluffy with photos or something for a bit.
I might not be around your places much, and I'll miss you and all you have going on, but I'll jump back in when life resumes a bit of normalcy.
That's the bad news. (Err, not the normalcy, that's not the bad news, the missing you guys is the bad news.)
One more spot of good news and then the rant.
Good thing 4: Patience is rocking out loud in kindergarten. She's earned ten Good Deed stickers for a trip to the Treasure Box. She got one Yellow Dot warning (I'm almost happier about this because if she's goofing around she's made friends and feels comfortable in her class). She's confident about going through the lunch line, comes home enthused about all she's learning, loves going through her folder with me, hasn't balked once about going to school, looks forward to it, is excited about her new friends...so far, so good. I feel very fortunate, especially when I hear stories from other moms about some kids, all of whom seem to be the young 5s (turning 6 next spring). Behavior regression, meltdowns, defiance, nastiness, exhaustion, fighting morning routine to go to school and so on. I didn't notice a huge difference in ability of the 5s versus my almost 6, but wow, I think it must really, really matter. The extra six months (give or take) my girl has on some of her classmates must really provide some maturity necessary to make it through all day kindergarten. Another mom and I were talking yesterday (our girls went through pre-school together and share a birthday) and we are really glad to have older 5s in kindie. Our kids are ready for the academic challenge (and are thriving on it), the social challenge (also thriving) and so forth. I'm usually the "Oh my kid is having tough times" mom and what a switch to listen to my friends discuss the troubles they and their kids are dealing with while I say all is fine.
Here's the rant:
I'll tell you who has a good thing going: service companies. You? Sit on your rump and do not move for a period of four to six hours. Bathroom break? No sirree, not even that. If they call and you don't answer? You are off the list!
Here's how the conversation went:
Me: ...and it just runs and runs. I'm worried the pipe is leaking in the wall.
Her: We can have someone out tomorrow between 12 and 4.
Me: (shocked at the quick response time, grateful it is so fast---usually it's 3-4 days) Oh wow, that's great! Yes, thanks!
Her: Okay, and what's the best number to call?
Me: This number, the home.
Her: And your other numbers?
Me: No, this is it. Just this phone.
Her: No cell?
Me: I have a prepaid cell, but it lives in my car; it's for emergencies only.
Me: Oh, I should mention, 12 to 4 tomorrow is fine, but I have to dash out for about 10 to 15 minutes at 3 to get my daughter. I'll be right back though so it's fine.
Her: It's not fine.
Me: Ummm...uh, what...?
Her: That's not fine. You must remain at home or have a legal adult who can represent you in your home during the entire span of hours.
Me: Umm, it's just for 10 minutes, while I get my daughter from school. It's only 10 minutes from my house if I walk. Driving is even faster. I'll just nip over, get her, be right back. I promise. You can count on me.
Her: No, still not fine. If they call your house and you don't answer? You're off the list. They move on to the next service call. We're very busy, you know.
Me: Yes, believe me, I understand busy. But, I"m not saying I'll be running in and out the whole time, just 10 minutes, at 3, like I said, so if you could be understanding, just a little bit...?
Her: We can't extend favors. It's against the policy. One rule for all.
Me: (holy crap is she effing kidding me?)
Her: Ma'am? Ma'am, are you there?
Me: I'm here. I'm just stymied.
Me: Okay, flummoxed, flabbergasted.
Her: What do you mean?
Me: I mean...it's crazy. You ask me to sit and wait for four straight hours, with a phone in my hand the whole time, until you get around to me, and you can't forgive ten minutes for me to pick up my daughter from school? I mean, do you hear the paradox there? The irony?
Her: If it's too much trouble ma'am, we can schedule another day...a lot of people need plumbing and they're willing to wait per our requirements...
Me: No, no, I'll be here. Of course you're more important. I need that toilet fixed. If I haven't heard from you by three, I'll just wait right here. My daughter can hang at school, right? It's safe, made for kids. I'm sure her teacher won't mind waiting until I've heard from you guys and can come pick her up.
Me: No, seriously, I'll be here. I'll find a way to both be here and get my daughter home safe and sound. No worries. So, tomorrow, 12-4 I'll be right here, phone in hand, waiting for your convenience, checkbook at my side to pay you the exorbitant fee you'll charge me to repair my toilet in my house where I've been waiting for you over a four hour period.
Me: Okey dokey then, see you tomorrow and thanks!
12 comes and goes.
1 comes and goes.
2 comes and goes.
3 I call my friend to pick up my daughter, and alert the school she's doing so. The school is very nice, but Patience doesn't get the message so when my friend, who she knows very well arrives to get her, Patience balks.
Patience: No, my mommy is supposed to pick me up.
Friend: It's okay, honey, your mommy asked me to pick you up.
Patience: No, that's what the bad guys say too. When someone says that you don't go with them. My mommy has to tell me it's okay.
School person: Your mommy said for you to go with this friend, she said it's okay.
Patience: I don't know you.
Friend: You know me, honey, it's okay. You've ridden home with me lots of times! But you're a smart girl, a really smart girl to be careful like this. Who can we get who'll help you know it's safe to come home with me?
Patience: My mommy.
Friend: Mommy is waiting for the plumber...remember he's going to fix your potty?
Friend: Somebody else you trust? If not me?
Patience: I want my teacher.
School person fetches teacher, who assures Patience she knows that Mommy wants her to go with Friend and it's okay.
Patience cautiously climbs in my friend's car, the car she's ridden in more than any other besides my own. She gives my friend the hairy eyeball, and friend tries not to laugh. As Patience buckles herself in with the three other little girls, her very best friends by the way, the adults sigh with relief, and the car rider line at school finally moves on.
Friend arrives home and tells me the story. Patience still looks wary and a little cowed.
Friend: I don't mind at all of course, she's one smart cookie, has learned the right lessons in the right way. Better safe than sorry. She was right to get another grown-up.
Me: I'm somewhere between proud and amused, relieved and worried. Maybe I overtaught.
Friend: No, no, it's fine. She was nearly in tears in the car, she said she's really tired.
Me: Yeah, maybe, I bet. Listen, thanks again.
Friend: have you heard from the plumber yet?
Me: Of course not! I'm awaiting their convenience, you understand.
Friend: (laughs) All right, see you later! (Waves and drives off.)
Patience and I talk and I tell her I am proud of her. I get her settled with snack and note it is a quarter of four, and no call from the plumber. I take the initiative and call.
Me: Hi, it's Julie...I've been waiting for a plumber since noon. He's supposed to be here by four?
Her: Let me check...hold on please...oh yes I see, he's running a little late. He should call between 4 and 5.
Me: Ohhh so he's got some other things to take care of, and I need to allow a little accommodation for him, extend some understanding...be patient, trust he'll be here?
Her: (missing sarcasm) Yes, that's very generous of you!
Me: Oh yes, I'm generous that way.
Her: Well you have a nice day, ma'am.
Me: (ripping hair out by roots)
Who else has a good thing going? Read on and see...
Emily wrote G.T.G
Snoskred wrote Goodbye to a good thing
Stephanie wrote Hump Day Hmmm: good thing going
A garden of nna mmoy wrote Going
Sarcastamom wrote A Good Thing is Hard to Find (Bonus points to her for the Flannery reference)
Sephyroth wrote I've got a good thing going
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