I went through the car-rider line today to drop Patience at school. We talked about the hall and landmarks that lead to her hall that leads to her classroom. We reviewed the route three times. We talked about what to do if she feels lost or uncertain.
I reiterated my confidence in her, her ability to do this, to be fine. She agreed.
We pulled up to the drop off spot. She jumped out of the car with her backpack and identifier tag. She walked to the entrance, looked at my (paused) car, gave a little wave, took a deep breath, put on her Resolute Face and walked in to the school.
I only had to yoga breathe for five minutes.
I have not called the school. She is fine.
And this afternoon she will be very blase on the outside and very proud on the inside that she---on her own---achieved another Big School goal.
Patience was never a child for "I do it myself" or "No! Me do it!" or "Back away Mama, I indepewent!" like Persistence is. She preferred babying, help, someone to do it for her. I've always had to push her out there to meet challenges. Each time I do so, I have to remind her about how she rose to the challenge and succeeded last time.
She's got her confidence and feet under her, and she always takes a deep breath and agrees she can do it.
Her favorite analogy is the Ferris Wheel.
She was so scared of going on that, and stuck to the baby rides: the little airplanes and carousel.
One day we said you will try it. So she did. And she loved it!
So now, when we bring up a challenge, she says, "I was scared of the Ferris Wheel and from the ground it looked too scary. But I got on it, and once I was there, it was fun. It's like that, Mom, isn't it?"
Baby. Big girl.
I don't get choked up taking her to school. I do get choked up at moments like these, the moments when she feels her wings, unfurls them, and takes off...albeit cautiously.
Next week, she'll tackle the lunch line.
Copyright 2007 Julie Pippert
Also blogging at:
Ravin' Maven REVIEWS: Get a real opinion about BOOKS, MUSIC and MORE
Ravin' Maven RECOMMENDS: A real opinion about HELPFUL and TIME-SAVING products
About-HOUSTON-TX.com: HOT scoop about H-Town!